What is fear
Fear is a function that should protect our lives in the early history of mankind.
However, in our civilized society, we cannot just run away or beat somebody when we are scared.
When we block this unconscious reflex it leads to tensions that can even affect our health.
The Stone Age pattern can lead to violence and results in abstruse activities and a need to control the anxiety-causing condition.
Reasons for fear
Civilization has given us a lot of anxiety ,not all of this leads to violence, but have an impact as harmful stress.
We fear for our jobs, our future, the questions of our children, of the boss, or what our partners or neighbors think of us.
The list is endless. People react differently to fear, depending on culture, education and character.
Dealing with fear
Often we do not admit that we are afraid. Fighting, running away and hide is not appropriate anymore
It is important to recognize exactly what triggers the fear, to deal with it. Do not allow fear,but you may use the
distributed adrenaline for positive reactions.
Make fear your partner .If we pay attention to our feelings we can use fear to know what not to do.
It can even guide us.
If fear comes in, our intuition tells us, we need to learn and overcome something.
Here some quotes:
“What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear;
that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.”
“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.”
“Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize
that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously.
Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
We read so much about the law of attraction ,but do we realize and did we understand that where our intention
goes the energy flows and we attract more of it?
And did we not all hear these words?
“What I feared has come upon me;
what I dreaded has happened to me.
I have no peace, no quietness;
I have no rest, but only turmoil.”
This is the truth,I think all of us have at one time of our life experienced it.
If we think too much about our fear we will get more that we can fear about.
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Schedule your fear
There is a very good way to deal with fear. I learned to schedule my fear,
this means it does not even feel like fear to me anymore .You may not believe it ,but it is possible.
If there is something happening which makes fearful and is uncomfortable ,
make a schedule and say : I am going to deal with you in 3 days.
Put your attention on something positive you want to do and whenever
this feeling come up ,tell it ,later,I deal with you in 3days. Let the mud settle and get clear.
You will see that everything can change for good after this time,but not
when you focus on the negative feelings ,turmoil and fear.
I had often times when I used this .
For example ,I came 1980 from Iran to Germany ,this was 2 years
after the revolution and my husband and I decided that I go to Germany
to put the kids’ in school,because in Iran the kids school closed and a new law
would not let my son out of the land the next year.I went like for a vacation to
see what can be done. We thought we have the ability to come and go until
there is a solution. It was one week later when the war with Iraq started,
the border was closed and no way to go back or my husband comes out.
We did not have the intention to go and live in Germany ,we had a good life in
Iran ,even after the revolution. But with this war, everything changed.
The Neighbors every day came to tell me about the bombs over Tehran
and how bad it is there.But I did not look even TV ,it was anyways not the truth.
First, there was no phone connection ,but after 3 days ,I got the first message ,
all are alive nothing bad happen to them.
I have learned to trust my Intuition and did not let fear rule my life. I got busy with life
and discussed every day with my kids the next steps we need to take .
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.
If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
I remember that even without this war ,many would be scared because
I was alone with my kids in a huge empty house ,not even a phone was there.
My Mother lived in another town and wanted me to live there ,to help her with my grandma’s house and huge garden.
Grandma has been living with my mother because she got sick 2 months before
and in between the tenants which lived in the house had left. And because nobody was there to take care
they left a big mess,which I needed to take care of.
Now, here I am with my husband still alive and healthy.
I could tell many more stories .
In this universe, there is no question without an answer and no problem without a solution.
We have a power in us which is far bigger than any tragedy, problem or fear we ever have in our life.
All we need is faith, positive thinking ,intuition, and make fear our partner.
Did you know you can schedule your fear ?
What is your experience with fear?
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