Without Expectations, your life will be more enjoyable
What if you let go of expectation and enjoy life better in 2019?
In the last time the subject Expectation came up for me several times and I realized there is not much awareness about this habit.
I thought to write about, to increase awareness and maybe help to make your life more enjoyable.
How much of your stress, anger, your mood, and your disappointments come from one thing?
Also, Read about confusing Hope with Expectation
Almost everything depends on your expectations. And if the outcome is not as you expect, you react with disappointment or anger.
“Expectation is the root of all heartache.”― William Shakespeare
The road to disappointment is paved with expectation. – Unknown.
Get aware of the expectations you have
In our minds, we have expectations about what other people should do, how our lives should look like, how others should behave, how the spouse, the friend, the customers, the boss should behave best.
But this is not a reality want .it is our desire and imagination how it should be.
Everyone has his own feelings, thinking, and imagination.
It is also a kind of egoism when expecting others to be and do what we want.
“We judge others according to our image of perfection as well, and naturally they fall short of our expectations.” Miguel Ruiz
Think of all the expectations you have for yourself, your life, your partner, your children, your job, the world.
A cause of bad relationship is the unfulfilled expectations partners have from each other.
If your marriage is just a bundle of expectations about how to extract happiness out of someone who should make heaven for you, you will be disappointed – Sadhguru
Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control; but don’t.-Steve Maraboli
Having expectations of others means you are trying to fix their lives. Don’t do that. Fix your own life – that is freedom. – Sadhguru
Thinking of my last article about the law of attraction one of the causes it does not work is the expectation the good comes to us right the way we imagine it. But it is not that way, the universe has its own ways to deliver, we have to be aware of the signs and act to it.
There are so many disappointments and miseries coming from expecting things from others or the world.
There is a simple solution.
Let go of expectation, imagine to throw them in the sea, a river, the ocean and let them be swept away by the waves.
I love water 🙂 Read my post The story of the Little Water Spring and a Rock or Little Melbas Journey to the Ocean
Release them, and now you live without your expectations. I know it is not that easy but there is still time left until the new year. Most people make new years resolutions and the best would be to live without expectation. Still, time to practice and get aware of what we expect and instead accept what is now. Life will be much more enjoyable.
What is life like without expectations?
“Serenity comes when you trade expectations for acceptance”-Gautama Buddha
Accept the reality as it is. Accept people as they are, not as you think they should be.
See things as they are. Be no longer disappointed, frustrated or annoyed
If you are getting aware, accept then let go of whatever you expect.
Remember for relationships:
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
– Bruce Lee
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.- Richard Bach
This does not mean you have to agree with everything. You do your best and what you think is right. But do not expect anything from the people around you. Only we are responsible for our life, what we think and do. Only rely on yourself do not expect.
How To Enjoy Life Better Without Expectations In 2019
Try it and live without expectations, make an experiment.
If you do something good, Do not expect praise or recognition for your doing. If you give, give freely.
“A gift is pure when it is given from the heart to the right person at the right time and at the right place, and when we expect nothing in return. But when it is given expecting something in return, or for the sake of a future reward or a specific type of sentiment in return, the gift is of Rajas (impurity).-Bhagavat Gita
Do not expect traffic -free roads or the bus or train be on time.
While shopping, do not expect to get to the checkout quickly.
Don’t always expect your partner to be friendly and relaxed and stand by to do what you want.
Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. Do not condemn yourself if you have expectations.
Just take it easy and if you catch yourself expecting, and do not worry.
Better you accept what is and let go.
Get aware of your expectation, breathe deeply and accept what happens
Notice and be aware of your thoughts when others do not behave as you think they should.
Whenever you get aware of your expecting, take a deep breath and let go.
I practice this for a long time. Expectations may come up sometimes, but whenever I notice I let go.
Whatever comes to me, praise, a smile, a kind word, is like a beautiful gift.
Try it at least for one day. You will see it is not that difficult.
Practice, there may be good opportunities during the holiday season 🙂
Be aware, it is just your perspective, your notion of how something should be. No more.
Start to enjoy Life better without expectations in 2019 and keep a positive mind 🙂
To your Happiness 🙂
What is your opinion? Do you have experience with expectations?
Please leave a comment and tell us about your experience.