Here are some things you can do for gaining confidence and fulfill your desire to create a successful life.
Self- confidence and Self – Improvement is very popular in our time. Many books and seminars are helpful for people to make decisions to improve their life.
On the other hand, everywhere we hear slogans like mistakes, failure, become a millionaire, buy your dream car.
There is the danger that some make self-improvement an obsession. Some are following rules convulsively and hope to be superheroes or millionaires fast.
But many also are getting discouraged by this slogans and do not dare to get going because of fear of failure or quit after a short time.
Be realistic and in the present
To become a Hero may be nonsense. Not everybody wants to subordinate the entire life to make money like Jeff Bezos.
For you, it may be a desire to be able to make enough money that you can fulfill your wishes, help others and live a pleasant life?
To get started all you need is something you love and are devoted doing, a goal, clarity, focus and taking action. To help you gain self – confidence, practice the tips below every day.
Do not just read them, but use them too! Because you know yourself taking action is the key
Have fun learning and implementing
Take responsibility for your life
It is the first and most important rule when it comes to building a strong sense of self.
Take responsibility for your life! Because without this elementary prerequisite nothing works.
Only when you fully accept and understand that only you are responsible for your life, only then can you actively create a life you love living!
Why do most people not live their dream life or do they not have a dream relationship or a dream job?
Why do most people not have the confidence they want?
The answer to that is quite simple:
These people have not yet taken responsibility for their lives. Instead, they are too busy trying to blame their circumstances on other people, their parents or their environment. And because they do that, they do not get aware of any opportunity to become active themselves and make a difference.
Therefore always remember: You and only you are responsible for your life! Nobody else!
If you want to have a successful life, you are responsible for creating it. No one else can do that for you!
So if you want something in life, go and get it. You are the one who has to decide what’s going on in your life.
If you want to build self- confidence? Great. Then start right now!
Leave blame behind, take responsibility for your life, and start today to create exactly the life you always wanted!
Read more about responsibility here > How To Be Successful By Taking Responsibility For Your Life
Be truthful to yourself
A necessity for change is that you are honest with yourself and admit flaws, weaknesses, and mistakes to yourself. Do not hide anything from yourself. Look how you feel, Know you without a filter.
Start right now!
“It is very, very important to be straight with yourself; otherwise, life won’t work right. And if you are very straight with yourself, you will see through things very easily.”—Sadhguru
Leave your comfort zone.
Remember, no action, no results without commitment, no profit.
And in the field of personal development and self-confidence, this is especially true.
From experience, I can say: The one who takes the action and leaves his comfort zone will also be able to build a healthy self-confidence and free himself from inner blockages!
Taking action is the basic requirement for results. And the more you move out of your comfort zone, the higher your gain. Start today!
Accept things that you can not change
It’s about developing the ability to accept every situation as it is. Drop expectations on other people. Pay attention to your emotions and feelings in different circumstances.
If you get angry, frustrated, disappointed or irritated, yell at others, or get upset. These moments are indicators that you wish things were different and that you want a different reality.
“Do not try to fix whatever comes in your life. Fix yourself in such a way that whatever comes, you will be fine”.- Sadhguru
See it as a journey
A huge mistake is that at the beginning of the journey towards more self-confidence you think it can happen overnight.
You want to be confident and calm every day. Completely relaxed, totally clear and able to deal with every situation. It does not work that fast!
Self-confidence is not something that you can buy or acquire in a few days. Gaining real confidence is like a path that you take every day and in small steps! It does not sound easy?
You want to wake up the next morning and be full of self-confidence, all worries and problems just are blown away and full of courage and energy.
Unfortunately, this does not work that way because real self-confidence is built up in small continuous steps you need to make experiences in everyday life and be conscious.
See the path to healthy self-confidence as a journey that you go every day In small steps. At your own pace and casual.
And then you will see soon: Every day will make it easier for you to go that way. With each passing day, you will become stronger, bolder and more relaxed. You master more and more challenges and win more inner freedom.
Finally, through experience, you will get the confidence and inner freedom that you desire.
It is the ultimate feeling for life and will make you feel great.
Give yourself time for serenity
Take it easy. Do not stress too much on your way to healthy self- confidence. Because you know:
Stress is the biggest enemy ! You must make your journey fun otherwise you will not stay with it long.
See that you are in a good state of mind. Do things that are good for you. It is an essential requirement that you have fun, leaving your comfort zone and building your self-confidence.
Also very important is that you do not compare yourself with other people!
“When there is no envy, jealousy, and comparison within you, you can focus your full capabilities on doing what is needed”. – Sadhguru
You are unique and have a unique history. Accept who you are right now. Work from where you are to build your self-confidence. In small steps, at your own pace. Nothing is worse than continually comparing yourself to others and make yourself down Instead, focus on yourself and your path.
“Comparison is an act of violence against the self”. – Iyanla Vanzant
Face uncomfortable situations and fear
It is imperative! The more you venture out of your comfort zone, the more you face challenging situations, the more inner freedom you will gain and build a sense of self!
For Examples: Are you afraid to give your opinion? If you practice talking your truth every day a bit more, soon it will be easy for you to say what you think, in whatever situation it may be! Remember: Action is the key to success.
Therefore take the challenge, start today and you will win.
Learn to know your true self
Self-awareness, has the meaning how strongly you are aware of yourself and what’s going on in you.
If you learn to become more aware of yourself inside, you can become outwardly much stronger.
Only by becoming more aware within yourself, by understanding what is going on in you and by what mechanisms and beliefs form your actions, only then can you ever really become self-confident and secure.
You can only confidently act outward if you feel content internally! A daily practice of mindfulness exercises and meditation will help you.
Through meditating, for example, you can recognize and get aware of limiting thoughts and beliefs.
If you do that and go inside yourself, you can realize what drives your actions. Also where your feelings come from and what thoughts run through your head all day long.
Because to know yourself and what’s going on in your head determines very much how strong (or weak) you feel inside yourself! If you are weak inside how can you act effectively outside?
Instead of letting the outside reality dictate your feelings, you go inside find the place where there is nothing but peace, joy, perfect contentment. If you can align with your inner self, you start feeling happy and feeling joy no matter what.
Another beneficial practice is chanting Mantras.
Read more about it here > Simple Mantras will help
Read more about Meditation here > A View On Yoga and Meditation for a better living
Use your Imagination and practice Visualisation.
Visualization- Many top athletes and high-performance people actively use this technique to achieve extraordinary results.
You can use imagination to visualize mental images that you can use for creating a healthy self-confidence and transforming your inner self positively. Focus on what you desire!
You envision things anyways. Whether you realize it or not. Every day, every second, you use this technique and most of the time you are not even aware. For example; If I say “red elephant.”
What happen? You see the red elephant on the screen of your mind. Do you?
From today on, use the power of Visualisation. Close your eyes and visualize what action you want to take, how you want to be and achieve in the future. And how you want to live. Envision and focus on your Dream and always act and take steps in the direction of it.
“There’s a flow of the universe that I’ve grown to know. Just have to go with it.”—Will Smith
“If you see it in your mind, you will hold it in your hand.” Bob Proctor
For example, the technique of visualization can help to become calmer, to master new situations more efficiently, to approach people more uninhibited, and generally to perform in stressful situations with significantly more self-confidence.
That’s why I say: try visualization consciously. Start right away. It will change your life if you use the technique regularly!
Here are helpful meditations> The Power To Create
Build a positive environment
It is one of the most critical items in this list. And I’m always talking and writing about it. You will feel the difference if you are with like-minded people
Here is the best self-confidence strengths tip.
See that you have positive people around you. People who support, uplift and give you energy.
People that understand and encourage you!
Nothing is as uplifting as a positive environment!
The environment and supportive people can make it possible that you feel well and positive on your journey
On the other hand, that also means: You better get rid off or stay away from negative people and people who drain your energy.
Focus instead on the people in your life who uplift you and who give you energy it makes a huge difference.
Read more here > The Power Of Meeting With Like Minded People
Invest in learning and new skills
Read books that help you with what you want: exchange experiences and knowledge with people and friends who have the same interest.
Invest in yourself to educate yourself, take courses, go to seminars. The more you do in your everyday life, the faster you see successes and the faster your self-confidence grows!
“Decide on something that you can do and that you will do. This is how to transform your life – by taking small steps”– Sadhguru
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”-Arthur Robert Ashe
Have fun and treat yourself well!
Celebrate every little success, every small step. Reward yourself. And make you feel well!
As said above: See it as a journey that you go every day In small steps at your own pace and casual.
Life has to be fun and fulfilled. If not it is not successful!
If you want to go deeper and understand how this all works listen to this > Fulfill all your Desires by Deepak Chopra